If someone has something against you…you go to them first!
“Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, “leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. Matt 5:23-24 (NKJV)
If you have something against someone…you go to them first!
“Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. “But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that ‘by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.’ “And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. Matt 18:15-17
When there is a stalemate, the first person to humble themselves is usually the most mature!